Who You Attract in Love & Business Is NO Coincidence
How Numerology EXPOSES Your Hidden Strengths & Weaknesses So You Can Unlock Your True Potential
“You’re a life path six,” said Nancy, the numerologist who was giving my first reading to me at a friend’s gathering.
“Oh? What’s that?” I replied with intrigue, eyes wide.
With a warm smile, she continued to explain what the number 6 symbolizes regarding one’s purpose here in this life and the ways it might show up. “The life path 6 is all about love, relationships, harmony, and responsibility.”
I noted the “coincidence” that although I started my career path as a teacher, which she also stated a life path 6 may gravitate toward, I transitioned into breakup & relationship coaching, which is dedicated to helping people find inner and outer harmony with themselves and the people they love. Woah.
Throughout history, humans have assigned symbolic meanings to numbers in various ways. In numerology, it is believed that numbers can influence human lives and events, suggesting that numbers hold unique vibrations and energies that can influence our characteristics, potential, and life path. But what if this kind of interpretation of numbers could also help you understand who you are at your core, how you approach relationships, and how you grow spiritually?
In this week’s episode of L3 Philosophy™, my guest Nancy Conte shared her wisdom on how numerology can offer deep insights into ourselves and help us navigate the complexities of life in a way that’s both empowering, enlightening, and fun!
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The Journey to Self-Love: Understanding Yourself Through Numerology
At the heart of the self-discovery path lies the powerful concept of self-love. But let’s be honest, that’s easier said than done. Self-love can often feel like this abstract idea that’s hard to grasp. So, how can we move from that concept of "loving yourself" into something tangible, real, and actionable? That’s where numerology can be eye-opening.
Nancy, who’s been studying metaphysical practices for most of her life, shared that numerology was a game-changer for her. “I still remember the first day I got my numerology reading,” she said. “It was like someone took a little puzzle piece and put it right here, and my world opened up in ways I can’t explain.” That’s the power of understanding who you truly are at a deeper level—when you can stop comparing yourself to others or doing what you think you should do and start embracing your own unique path, everything shifts.
Understanding your personal numerology helps you get a clearer picture of your strengths, shadows, and the unique challenges you face. By uncovering these layers, you stop comparing your life to others, wishing you had the same success or relationships they do. Instead, you come to accept that your path is yours and yours alone, and that’s exactly how it’s meant to be. It’s liberating. As Nancy puts it, “When you see that your path is not like theirs, you don’t have to be like your sister. You don’t have to be like your best friend. You have to be like you.”
Reflect and Practice: Do you ever get the sense that there’s something more out there for you, but you’re just not sure what it is? Take a moment of quiet reflection to tap into what your inner soul voice is whispering to you (or has been yelling at you!) What does it say? Write down your thoughts, releasing any fear around whether it sounds realistic or not. Just daydream and write.
Embracing Your Shadow: Understanding the Parts of Yourself You Haven’t Fully Accepted
We all have those parts of ourselves that we try to hide or ignore—the things we think of as "flaws" or "shadow aspects." But what if I told you that these parts are actually the keys to your personal growth and the source of your greatest power?
Having spent hundreds of hours working with people as a breakup & relationship coach, I see how the shadow parts impact them at an individual level but then also play out with their partners. Carl Jung, a prominent psychoanalyst, referred to the concept of the "shadow" as the unconscious part of the psyche that contains aspects of ourselves we find undesirable, primitive, or unacceptable. But instead of acknowledging these "shadow parts" within ourselves, we often project them onto others, attributing these negative qualities to them instead of recognizing them as part of our own inner landscape. The goal of shadow work is to become aware of these repressed aspects of ourselves, integrate them into our conscious awareness, and ultimately, accept them as part of our whole self.
Numerology is incredible in how it can help you embrace those shadow parts of yourself. Whether it’s your tendency to be overly sensitive or your habit of avoiding confrontation, understanding the characteristics of your specific number, along with your life path, can bring clarity and acceptance. Nancy describes how, through a numerology reading, you begin to see why you act the way you do, and how to stop hiding from these parts of yourself. She explains that, when you start to understand your challenges, you stop seeing them as “negatives” and start seeing them as opportunities for growth.
“Understanding your number helps you embrace all parts of it,” Nancy says, “whether it’s the sensitive side of you or the logical, emotionless side. You grow by seeing yourself, and when you stop comparing yourself to everyone else, you can start to grow in the way that’s unique to you.”
Reflect and Practice: Reflect on your own potential shadow parts. What might they be? Have you seen them mirrored to you by other people in your life such as romantic partners, your children, other family members, or friends? This week, try to observe when they appear and rather than suppressing or dismissing them, as yourself what lesson they are trying to bring to light for you.
Breaking the Comparison Trap: How to Stop Measuring Your Success Against Others
Let’s talk about one of the most natural yet toxic habits many of us have: comparing ourselves to others. Whether you’re single and looking at your friends’ “perfect” relationships or comparing your entrepreneurial journey to someone else’s “overnight success,” it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking, “Why don’t I have that? Why can’t I be that person?”
As Nancy shares, this comparison is natural, especially in a society that places so much emphasis on external achievements. But it’s also incredibly harmful. When we measure our worth based on others, we lose sight of our own unique journey and the specific lessons we need to learn in order to grow. Understanding your numerology is one of the best ways to break free from this trap.
For example, Nancy brings up how many people look at their entrepreneurial peers and wonder why their business is thriving while theirs isn’t. But what you don’t always see is that person’s path. Maybe they’ve been in business longer than you, or maybe their numerology shows they have a different set of talents and strengths that are aligned with their success. By understanding your own life path, you can stop focusing on what others are doing and start seeing what makes you unique. “You stop looking at everybody else and start looking at yourself,” Nancy says. “When you see that your path is not like theirs, you stop comparing and start growing in your own way.”
This is a powerful shift, and it’s one that comes from a place of deep self-awareness. When you embrace your own strengths and accept your challenges, you stop wasting energy on jealousy or self-doubt. Instead, you start focusing on how to grow from where you are, and that’s where the magic happens.
Reflect and Practice: What is one area where you notice you compare yourself or your life to others and it brings up low-vibe emotions? This week, bring awareness to when this is happening and then bring yourself back to the present moment, acknowledging that you are on a different path than someone else. With what supportive phrase can you replace those initial comparison thoughts?
Why Numerology Helps You Love Your Relationships More Deeply
Just like understanding yourself better, numerology can help you understand others—your partner, your friends, and even your family. By understanding the numbers in your own chart, as well as the numbers of the people you care about, you gain a deeper understanding of how to communicate, support, and love one another.
Nancy explains that numerology helps you understand what you’re here to do in your relationships. It provides clarity on what works and what doesn’t. For instance, understanding your life path number can help you avoid common relationship pitfalls, like expecting someone to meet all of your emotional needs when they’re simply not designed to do so.
In one specific example, Nancy shares how some life path numbers—especially the master numbers like 11—tend to have more difficulty in relationships early on because they’re on a higher vibrational path. “A lot of master numbers and old souls have problems early on with relationships,” Nancy says. “They often only connect with certain souls and not just anyone. Their true partner has to be in a different alignment.”
This is where numerology can help individuals who are struggling with relationships—especially when it feels like they’re not finding the right match. “If you’re a master 11 and you’re single, it’s not because you’re not lovable,” Nancy continues. “It’s because your soul is waiting to connect with someone on the same spiritual level. The pool of people you’ll connect with is smaller, but when you find them, it’ll be worth the wait.”
But relationships aren’t just about love and connection—they’re also about growth. And numerology can help you identify where your growth opportunities lie within your relationships. Whether it’s through understanding your communication style or learning to embrace your partner’s strengths, numerology allows you to nurture your relationships in ways that are more aligned with your true self.
Reflect and Practice: Think of one person you love, but with whom you tend to have friction. What is one thing you wish you could better understand about them? How might this improve your relationship?
Numerology and Career: Aligning Your Path with Your True Talents
Another aspect of life where numerology can offer clarity is in your career. Whether you’re in a job that no longer excites you, or you’re considering a career shift but aren’t sure where to start, numerology can help point you in the right direction.
Nancy explains that numerology can show you where your natural talents lie, which makes it easier to choose a career or path that aligns with your true self. When you’re using your natural gifts, the doors open more easily. “When you flow with who you’ve come to be, life becomes easier,” Nancy says. “You’re not fighting against your own natural flow anymore. You’re flowing with your true self, and when you do that, life just gets easier.”
This flow, as Nancy describes it, is the key to both personal and professional success. You’re not working against the grain or pushing yourself into roles that don’t fit. Instead, you’re aligning with the career that allows you to shine in your authentic light. And the beauty of it? When you’re aligned with your true path, everything seems to fall into place more naturally.
The Power of Letting Go: Releasing What’s Holding You Back
Finally, Nancy and I both agree on one critical point: in order to grow and evolve, you must be willing to let go. This applies not only to emotional baggage but also to limiting beliefs and habits that no longer serve you. Whether it’s releasing past pain, emotional baggage, or the need for perfection, letting go is essential for growth.
Nancy shares how numerology can help identify what’s weighing you down. For example, if you’re a person who constantly carries emotional weight or lives in a place of negativity, it can start to affect your relationships and even your health. “The longer you remain in bitterness and blame, the harder your life becomes,” Nancy says. “You’re carrying that weight, and eventually, it will exhaust you.”
The key to releasing this weight is to acknowledge it first, then take steps to let it go. Whether it’s through emotional release or simply changing your mindset, letting go is a powerful way to move forward. In fact, Nancy’s advice for people who are feeling stuck is simple: “How can I lift that weight? What do I need to put down?”
Numerology is just a tool to help you bring awareness to these things, which means it’s YOU that still has to do the inner work to evolve on your path, helping you know what to say yes to and when to say no. The insights that understanding your numbers provide simply act as a blueprint, but you still have free will to determine your path based on the choices you make in life.
Key Takeaways
Numerology Can Help You Understand Yourself: It offers deep insights into your strengths, weaknesses, and life challenges. By understanding your numerology, you can stop comparing yourself to others and focus on your own path.
Embrace Your Shadow: We all have parts of ourselves that we tend to hide. Numerology can help you embrace these parts and see them as opportunities for growth rather than flaws.
Break Free from the Comparison Trap: Comparing yourself to others only holds you back. Understanding your unique path through numerology helps you stop measuring yourself against others’ successes and focus on your own journey.
Numerology Enhances Your Relationships: By understanding your life path and the paths of others, you can build stronger, more aligned relationships. Whether it’s romantic or familial, numerology offers clarity on how to communicate and connect better.
Align Your Career with Your True Talents: Numerology can show you where your natural gifts lie, making it easier to find a career or business path that flows with your true self.
Letting Go Is Essential for Growth: To evolve, you must be willing to release emotional baggage and limiting beliefs. Numerology can help you identify what’s holding you back so you can release it and grow.
As Nancy said, “When you flow with who you’ve come to be, life just gets easier.” So, take a moment to reflect on your own path, your own strengths, and the challenges you’re facing. The more you understand yourself, the easier it will be to love yourself, love your relationships, and love your life.
It is my pleasure to believe in you and celebrate the gifts you bring to the world.
Connect with me @emmifortin ! I’d love to hear what aspect of self-discovery you’re working on, challenges you’re working through, and adventures you envision on the horizon.
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