Your Subconscious Is Secretly Controlling Your Life
How hypnotherapy can unlock your mind’s limiting beliefs and set you free
“I’m not good enough.”
“That level of success is available for them, not for me.”
“I’ll never find the love I long for at this age.”
These are just a few examples of limiting beliefs that may reside in both your conscious and subconscious mind. If they are in your subconscious mind, you are not even aware that they exist. But did you know that they are running the show of your life?
Through self-discovery and the right tools, you could break free from these limiting beliefs and patterns holding you back so you can step into a life that feels empowering and aligned with your true self. In this article, we’re diving deep into the power of self-exploration through hypnotherapy, and how to shift from being stuck to feeling unstoppable.
In this week’s podcast episode of L3 Philosophy™ with Emmi, I invited the incredible Kannary Keo, a hypnotherapist and rapid transformational therapy (RTT) practitioner, who has helped over 700 people break through the barriers that were holding them back. From overcoming procrastination to resolving chronic pain and navigating relationship struggles, Kannary’s work has touched lives in numerous ways. This episode highlights the importance of doing the inner work, using tools like RTT to rewire the subconscious mind, and how facing painful truths can be the catalyst for personal and professional breakthroughs.
This article highlights the deep transformation that happens when we do the inner work, face our fears, and create new possibilities for ourselves.
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People-Pleasing and the Quest for External Validation
One of the most common patterns that many of us experience is people-pleasing. It’s a behavior often ingrained from childhood, and it can take a significant toll on our emotional well-being. Kannary shared that people-pleasing comes from a belief that your worthiness is tied to your accomplishments and what you do for others. This can feel especially true for high-achievers, where you experience reward and satisfaction through your output rather than for who you are as a being.
When you feel like your worth is based on external validation—whether from work, relationships, or others’ opinions—you’re constantly running on empty, trying to fulfill others’ needs while neglecting your own. This can lead to burnout, anxiety, depression, and, ultimately, a feeling of being trapped in a cycle you can’t break out of. But the first step toward breaking this cycle is awareness. By becoming aware of the ways in which we people-please or overextend ourselves, we open the door to making different, healthier choices.
As a breakup & relationship coach, I’ve seen how people pleasing impacts a relationship, especially long-term. The pleaser often puts their needs on the back burner for their partner or their family because they believe everyone else’s well-being is more important than their own. In some cases, the pleaser is fearful of expressing their needs or boundaries because they are afraid to upset their partner or that their partner will leave them. Many times, the relationship dynamic becomes unfulfilling for one or both people in this cycle.
Kannary noted that when we recognize these patterns, “we have the ability to step out of the movie of our life and observe the story,” instead of living it as though we’re trapped in it. When we step back and watch ourselves, we can finally see the behaviors that no longer serve us. This awareness is key to breaking the cycle of people-pleasing and beginning the journey toward personal empowerment.
Reflect and Practice: From where do you derive your sense of worth or value? Notice if it mostly comes from external sources or from within. Over the next week, notice how this contributes to how you feel from day to day or in your overall life.
Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage
You’ve probably heard the term self-sabotage before, but what is it really? Self-sabotage is when you engage in behaviors or thought patterns that actively undermine your own goals, well-being, and success, often unconsciously, and can manifest in various ways, such as procrastination, self-criticism, or self-neglect.
Kannary opened up about her own struggles with procrastination and how it once controlled her life. She referred to herself as a “former professional procrastinator,” highlighting that even with all her ambition, anxiety and depression often held her back from taking action. Despite her drive to succeed, she found herself avoiding tasks, feeling paralyzed by the weight of perfectionism.
But everything began to change when she found Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). RTT isn’t just about talking through issues; it’s about rewiring the subconscious mind, which is responsible for driving most of our behavior. By tapping into the subconscious and uncovering the root cause of her procrastination, Kannary was able to break free from the emotional triggers that were keeping her stuck.
Through RTT, Kannary faced a pivotal moment from her childhood, one where she believed that success wasn’t meant for her. She recalls, “I was seven years old… I asked my mom, ‘Why don’t we have what the other kids have?’” This moment stuck with her, and for years, it shaped her belief that she didn’t deserve success. RTT helped her confront and reprogram this limiting belief, enabling her to take action with confidence and clarity.
The truth is that procrastination and other self-sabotaging behaviors are often a manifestation of deep-rooted fears and beliefs. “When you tap into the power of your subconscious mind, you can have really fast results,” Kannery explained. RTT is one modality that allows us to uncover these hidden beliefs and replace them with empowering, productive thoughts.
Reflect and Practice: Are there any areas of your life where your actions or thoughts contradict your aspirations and prevent you from achieving your goals? Notice if behaviors such as people pleasing, procrastination, self-criticism, self-neglect, or making excuses show up for you consistently - you may be self-sabotaging.
The Freedom of Rewiring Your Subconscious Mind
If you talk to anyone, even the most successful people in the world including elite athletes to CEOs and changemakers, the fear of failure is real. Many people, especially perfectionists, are so afraid of failing that they avoid trying altogether. This fear often leads to inaction, missed opportunities, and a lingering feeling of inadequacy. But Kannary offered a powerful shift in perspective: “There’s no such thing as failure. There’s only learning.”
Instead of viewing failure as a reflection of your abilities or worth, it becomes a tool for growth. Kannary shared “If it’s not absolutely perfect, you’ve failed” is a lie that so many of us live by. But when we embrace failure as part of the journey, we free ourselves from the pressure to be perfect. This allows us to take more risks, try new things, and continue moving forward, even when things don’t go exactly as planned.
Kannary emphasized the importance of working with the subconscious mind to eliminate limiting beliefs around failure and myriad other things. The subconscious is the most powerful part of our brain, and it’s responsible for most of our thoughts, actions, and behaviors. However, much of what’s stored in the subconscious are outdated beliefs, negative emotions, and unresolved traumas that hold us back from reaching our full potential.
Kannary has been able to use RTT herself and with her clients to access the subconscious and begin to reprogram these limiting beliefs. This process is different from traditional talk therapy because it directly addresses the root cause of your behaviors and emotions, rather than simply managing symptoms. With this work, you’re able to tap into the emotional triggers that often go unnoticed, helping you release them and replace them with healthier, more empowering beliefs.
“When you tap into the power of your subconscious mind, that’s when you can have really fast results,” Kannary said, highlighting the power of RTT to create rapid transformations. By rewiring the subconscious, you’re able to break free from old patterns that have been holding you back for years, if not decades.
Reflect and Practice: If you could rewire your brain to consistently have any thoughts you can imagine that would support your ability to thrive, what would they be? Reflect on any thoughts or behaviors you have that may be in direct conflict with these and how you might begin to release them.
Chronic Pain and Emotional Blockages: The Link Between Body and Mind
A particularly fascinating part of my conversation with Kannary revolved around the connection between emotional pain and chronic physical pain. Kannery explained that many people who experience chronic pain are actually dealing with emotional blockages that manifest physically. “A lot of pain is emotional… when we beat ourselves up, when we people-please, and put ourselves last, that turns into chronic pain.”
This is a powerful insight because it shows how the body and mind are interconnected. Chronic pain isn’t always caused by physical injury or illness—it can also be a manifestation of unresolved emotional trauma. This mind-body connection is something I find incredibly powerful, especially because it speaks to the holistic nature of healing. It’s not just about treating the symptoms of pain or emotional distress—it’s about addressing the root causes, which are often buried deep within the subconscious mind.
By doing the inner work, we can liberate ourselves from the limiting beliefs and behaviors that keep us stuck in old patterns. I’ve realized numerous times in my own life that we are the oppressors of ourselves… but when you have access to tools like this, it really allows you to be able to move forward and elevate yourself to levels that you might not have ever believed were possible for you.
Key Takeaways:
People-Pleasing and Self-Worth: Many of us struggle with people-pleasing behaviors that stem from a belief that our worth is tied to external validation. Recognizing these patterns is the first step to breaking free from them and reclaiming our sense of self.
The Power of Awareness: By stepping out of our heads and observing our lives without judgment, we gain the ability to make more conscious choices and create new, healthier habits.
Procrastination and Fear of Failure: Procrastination is often a result of the fear of failure. Shifting our perspective from failure to learning helps free us from perfectionism and opens up the path to growth and action.
Rewiring the Subconscious Mind: RTT is a powerful tool for reprogramming the subconscious mind and breaking free from limiting beliefs that hold us back. This process can lead to rapid transformation in many areas of our lives.
Mind-Body Connection: Emotional blockages often manifest as chronic physical pain. By addressing emotional trauma, we can alleviate physical symptoms and experience more holistic healing.
Liberation from Limiting Beliefs: The ultimate goal is to liberate ourselves from the limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors that keep us stuck. Through tools like RTT, we can create lasting transformation and step into our full potential.
The journey of self-discovery is not always easy, but it is incredibly rewarding. The power lies in your hands—when you choose to confront your fears, do the inner work, and reprogram your mind, you open up a world of possibilities for yourself.
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